At That Day
Sunday and Monday of this week we got a dusting of snow. Not so much snow as in this picture, although several miles south of here received 16" of snow.
Some things were slowed down for yesterday and we had to pick up today as if it were Monday. Today was the first day back from Thanksgiving Holiday for Old Fuzzy and Big Fuzzy for their bus driving.
Young Fuzzy had an extra day off from his truck driving, and this morning he also left for his job which is based in Wisconsin.
This morning impressed upon me some of the reasons that parents should be more cognizant of spending time with their children. And not just spending time, but making sure they have the time to spend and using it wisely.
When we as parents, grandparents, and so forth, leave the home to join the work force we leave behind a large gaping hole.
When kids get home from their day at school instead of having mom to share snacks and conversation with them, who is there? Often no one at best, at worst it is a poor to bad substitute for mom.
We don't all always have a choice to be a two parent home. Things happen that we can't control, but we shouldn't allow things to happen that we can control.
In times past it was assumed people would come to adulthood, most would find a mate, marry and begin a family. And this cycle would continue.
Today over half of our population doesn't have a concept of marriage and family. Their concept is, move in together, have some kids then move on. I've seen this with both males and females being the instigators.
Even with society's financial safety net it isn't easy and it isn't good. Studies have shown that children need both parents. God designed husbands, wives, and families. He didn't want us to act like the beasts.
The majority of men and women still want the one man, one woman commitment. Most men don't want a harem, and most women want one man to love and cherish them.
Therein lies the crux of the matter. Add to this that children need good role models. They need parents that step up to be as good as they can be.
When both parents are absent, and work away from home, and leave their children in the care of strangers, who is the main influence on those children? Who will be there to answer their questions?
All of our children are adults. Even Young Fuzzy is an adult with his own job, own house, etcetera. This morning as he was leaving, the three of us were talking about good influences and role models.
Even though Young Fuzzy isn't married he has nephews and nieces who view him as a role model. And he has to step up and do the right things.
As Old Fuzzy reminded him of the parable of the father and his son: Father says to son, watch your steps son. Son replies, you watch your steps, Father, because I'm following in them.
