One Hundred and One Points on How to Change Other People
Most of us have at least one person in our lives that definitely needs changed. Someone that drives us bonkers.
It could be a friend that you enjoy, except for that one habit, or maybe two. It could be a family member, a co-worker, or someone who you don't want to be around at all.
Hopefully you don't need to use a hundred and one points (mostly because that was a slight exaggeration), and the first few points ought to be enough to address the problem.
The first point is to prepare for the battle—bathe, brush your teeth, apply make up if you wear make up, beard oil if that is applicable. In short, get yourself into good shape so you feel positive and upbeat. We also need to slip into our honesty mode. It is necessary to be honest with ourselves and honest with those we want to change.
Another first point in preparation is prayer. This applies to anyone you feel the need to help change. Lift them and yourself up in prayer. Prayer is always a prerequisite for change. I also like to pull out my Bible and do some study there along with the prayer.
James 1:5 "But if any of you lacketh wisdom, let him ask of God, who giveth to all liberally and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. 6) But let him ask in faith, nothing doubting..."
Asking for wisdom and faith—you can't go wrong there. And here's another scripture:
James 1:22 "But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deluding your own selves. 23) For if any one is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a mirror: 24) for he beholdeth himself, and goeth away, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was."
Therein lies the problem. Often times people's problem is their perception with us. We can't actually 'change' anyone but ourselves. But if we look into God's mirror, his perfect mirror we can change ourselves. We need to ask ourselves what we look like to others. Does our attitude come across as self-righteous? Stuck up? Greedy? Or something similar?
What happens is the infamous cliche' where we judge others by their actions, but judge our own self by our intentions. Change the person you can change. Help change others perception of you into what you would like them to see in you. And what you would like to see in them and in you.
